A client’s son was killed in Afghanistan last week. I was watching the news coverage and listening to interviews from people talking about what a great kid he was. I couldn’t help but wonder how many of those same people said just the opposite when he was with the living. He was actually a troubled person who had gotten into quite a bit of trouble in his life. Joining the military wasn’t so much something he wanted, but something he needed according to his dad. All I ever heard about was the negative side of him as a person, never the positive, until now. Why do we as humans find it so much easier to discuss what someone has done wrong in their lives as opposed to the good? Is this you or do you try to find something good about a person, regardless of what they’ve done and focus on that? I think I spent the majority of my life picking people apart and pointing out what’s wrong with someone rather than what’s right. I’ve got a long way to go still, but I am changing my thinking and words and I try to say something positive about each person I come in contact with everyday, who knows what an impact a few words may have on a person’s life? I can’t help but wonder if this boy’s life could have been any different had he been lifted with words of praise rather than put down with words of belittlement?