I am 29, my partner is 25, she has a 6 year old boy from previous relationship. We have been together for nearly 3 years. It is my first relationship (im a slow starter) as such i dont have anything to compare it too, this being part of my dilemma. To ask if i love her, the answer is yes, but i am troubled by my lack of "experience", not having a comparison Also, i moved to this tiny town a little over 4 years ago. She has lived here her whole life, as such she knows most people down here. Hence why i am asking you guys. My partner is starting to talk about moving forward, emphasizing marriage. I personally think we have been moving at a pace much faster than my liking. We were living together after just 6 months of being together. I am slowly taking on more when it comes to her child, who i adore. After some rough times at the beginning which brought tension between the parents, we seem to be getting on just fine. Recently the tension between me and her parents is dwindling. And i like the way things are headed in this respect. I feel that my obligation to make things right with the parents is being met, and i think even she would agree. However she also thinks that i should be going to every family outing no matter how distant the relative or friend. I on the other hand feel my obligation to her family stops at 2nd cousins say. What i want to know how long before someone in this current position, considering a rather "heavy" path to it, should really feel like they have to get married. I feel as though we have only really had the last 6 months without turmoil and am not convinced that the time for marriage is now.