Quick Question

Discussion in 'Dating & Relationships' started by redsoxocd, Dec 15, 2007.

  1. redsoxocd

    redsoxocd living on the border

    OKay, so I was just thinking: Does sex look anything like the way that they show it in porn. Or is the way that sex looks in porn stage and made up of someone's fantasy. I mean...eh, awkward question...but is it realistic...

  2. Merc

    Merc Certified Shitlord V.I.P. Lifetime

    Porn is nothing but fantasy, obviously.

    Sex is what you make of it, plain and simple. You won't be amazing the first time, it will be messy, and you may feel uncomfortable. If you're going to have sex, make sure you're totally comfortable with the person and that you'd trust them with your well-being (because let's face it, your well-being could be in danger).

    So to answer your question, no.

    Sex is nothing like porn.

    At first.
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  3. redsoxocd

    redsoxocd living on the border

    thanks for your response, but in responding you have made me more afraid of having sex than I already was. How would my well-being be in danger?:confused:
  4. Merc

    Merc Certified Shitlord V.I.P. Lifetime

    Heh, well, just think about. STDs and pregnancy, two big worries.

    I may be trying to scare you a bit, but only so you know you're ready. Use protection, know who you're having sex with (in other words, make sure he's clean of diseases and such).

    Sex is intimidating, you just need to be careful. Go by the saying, "Prior proper planning prevents piss poor performance" and you should be fine.

    One big difference between porn and actual sex is that actual sex is (it goes without saying) a hell of a lot more fun.
  5. redsoxocd

    redsoxocd living on the border

    okay you have a point, with the STD's and pregnancy thing. but what does:"Prior proper planning prevents piss poor performance" mean. I think that I understand it but i'm not sure.
  6. Merc

    Merc Certified Shitlord V.I.P. Lifetime

    In a nutshell:

    Be prepared and well-thought out and you'll won't have a bad time (in terms of fun and health effects)
  7. redsoxocd

    redsoxocd living on the border

    okay so I did get it, but i've also been told that if things are planned too well, then they are no longer fun
  8. Merc

    Merc Certified Shitlord V.I.P. Lifetime

    It's the same with any risky activity. You have to find the right balance between fun and safety.

    Yeah, it may not be as stimulating (for the guy mostly) if he's wearing a condom, but if he doesn't wear it you shouldn't let him near you basically. There has to be safety measures taken if you want to remain healthy obviously, but you don't have to drive yourself mad with the thought of them either.
  9. oxyMORON

    oxyMORON A Darker Knight

    Well, professional porn is definitely fantasy, but amateur ones aren't always.

    I'm guessing sex is like a sport. You'll probably look really stupid playing for the first time. That's why it's probably smart to do it with someone you really really trust, so you can joke about it later.Anyways...if you like it (hopefully), you'll practice. With more practice, you'll get better.

    Unfortunately, like most sports, mistakes are less frequent with more practice. Mistakes in baseball might be strikeout, but mistakes in sex could be pregnancy, STDs, or regret.

    All this coming from a virgin, probably for a long time.

    edit: hahaha. I don't think you want to plan it out so much that you'll be sending a Friday Night Syllabus to you're boyfriend...
    Last edited: Dec 18, 2007

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