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Parenting styles

Which style of parenting do you use/did your parents use?

  • Instinctive parenting

    Votes: 1 25.0%
  • Attachment parenting

    Votes: 1 25.0%
  • Helicopter parenting

    Votes: 1 25.0%
  • Authoritative parenting

    Votes: 1 25.0%
  • Permissive parenting

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Total voters
    4

idisrsly

I'm serious
V.I.P.
I recently heard of a new parenting style referred to as "CTFD - Calm the fuck down". I kid you not. The whole idea behind it is to not freak out when your toddler can't walk by the age he is "supposed" to, or not talk, or not achieve some sort of milestone by what is considered an appropriate age to do so by society. I actually really like this style.

But that had me thinking about what style of parenting my parents followed when raising me. My mother might have my head for saying this, but she has been and still is very much a "helicopter parent". And it has had it's negative aspects in the sense that I easily jump on a plane and move away to foreign far off countries to almost make sure I get far away and out of reach. Please know though, in saying that, I am extremely close to my mom and both my parents. I just really wish she wouldn't smother me as much, especially now that I'm a grown woman!!

What style of parenting do you do, for those of you who are parents?
And to those of you who are not yet parents, what style would you say best describes your parents?

5 Parenting styles for a new generation

For the sake of this poll, I included only the 5 common styles known as per the article description.
 

sunrise

aka ginger warlock
V.I.P.
I am not a parent and I do not intend to have children so I can not claim to understand how hard or how stressful raising a child is. I am quite certain I was a very difficult person growing up because honestly I still am.

With that being said I see parents outside of my house screaming blue murder, swearing and threataning to hit their kids if they do not do what they are told in the middle of the street and all I can think of is "god help those kids growing up", now maybe this the way to raise children but to me I would never do the things I have seen them do.
 

Hilander

Free Spirit
Staff member
V.I.P.
I don't know if I fall entirely under any of those types. I tried to listen to my child when he had an opinion on something but at the same time if I thought he was wrong I would try to guide him in a different direction. I would also give him advice on certain situations to the best of my knowledge but not be one of those parents that says you do as I say as long as you live under my roof. I never felt like cramming something down his throat was the way to go.

I was never given advice or my opinion listened to. It was always don't do that with no reason why most of the time. I was just expected to listen.
 

Doc

Trust me, I'm The Doctor.
V.I.P.
I'm definitely an authoritative parent in the Psychological sense of the word. I try to give more praise than punishment and only try to modify one negative behavior at a time. I do not believe in striking a child so my punishments are more creative and very sparse. They are also allowed freedom to learn about the world and do not get sheltered once they've discovered certain points (sex, violence, and so on). They get educated on each subject. I also have defined rules like no cell phones until age 13, managed time with electronics, have to stay in my sight/hearing distance depending on age, no porn!, and so on.

I get tons of compliments on how well behaved and intelligent all of the kids in my family are.
 
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Jeanie

still nobody's bitch
V.I.P.
I'm a big advocate of attachment parenting. My daughter still sleeps in my bed most nights (she's 7) and she's getting ready to move into her own bed now. I picked her up when she cried, responded to her needs when she was a baby, I didn't push toilet training, and let her decide when it was time to wean (thankfully it was at around 18 months. I would not have been one of those moms whose kids help themselves :urp: )

When she went off to Kindergarten, it was easy, there were no tears and no dragging her in to the school. She's confident and well-adjusted.
 

Major

4 legs good 2 legs bad
V.I.P.
Instinctive parenting sounds the most like how my parents raised me and my siblings. I feel like they used a lot of the same methods in raising us that their parents used to raise them. They weren't overly authoritative or permissive, but probably somewhere in between.
 

anndelise

New Member
I don't think I fit any of those categories. Though maybe one could say anti/Instinctive? When you grow up being told that you're being abused because the abuser had been abused himself, that sends a strong message that "tough luck kid, you're going to abuse your own children." Raising my daughter, I question myself all the time even for the littlest things. I tried to give her space to explore and try new things. When her language dificulties became as obvious as her acting skills, I signed her up for a children's theater program. When that became a recital style rather than acting, and she wasn't losing her inflexibility of mind, I signed her up with an Improv Acting group. I tried to gear most things towards helping her use a favored skill of hers to build up a weaker one. Finally she was diagnosed ASD, and so many issues finally made sense. I was better able to find solutions for some of the remaining problems. Time and experience will help with the others. I believe I put a lot more thought into raising her than the average parent might, but that doesn't mean it was all rainbows vs paddles. In that sense I'm probably more on the Permissive end as I could never be too firm personality-wise, believed in exploring, and learned to pick my battles early.
 
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