Since becoming a young adult, I have learned one or two things about myself. For instance, my main qulam in life is arguments. I avoid them like the plague, I try everything I can possibly think of to stop them before they even start. As a result I never get burned, I'm never at the brunt of someone's anger. As a result, I am very aware that my life at the moment is one that is probably extremely dull and boring. Or at least compared to most people I know, whether family, friends or just acquaintances. They all (or most) go jumping into situations like charging rhinos whereas I choose the indolent, laid back, uninvolved stance. I don't know if it's unconscious, or not. However, every so often I do notice just how boring my life is. I also realise that as far as arguments go, I haven't been involved in one for almost a decade now. Which I should assume is a good thing. Yet, others seem to go through these things, come out the other side, and have a bright episode to talk about. Whereas I have nothing to talk about because I am dull. It draws my attention to types of conversation. Even on here there is evidence for it. Argumentative conversation, either the sort that is a direct argument, or one that is referring to another argument. It seems like a common theme for social interaction and chatter, yet I dislike it. I do not like conflict. I have made a sort of mental note recently to be 'braver' - Yet, I'm not sure if this is worth it. What sort of person goes and looks for arguments? Seeing as I despise them like I do, I only associate arguments with arseholes, but I know that's not true. If it was, close friends would have that label by now. So, please tell me, if you have a vague theory. What is it that makes people argue? Is it linked to what sort of person they are, are they stressy sorts or humourless? I don't get it. What makes arguments so fascinating to engage in, when in the end, they are not nice? Thanks.