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How does sex change a relationship?

whiteraven

Registered Member
Firstly, if your in love with the person then, sex can bring to people closer together. My belief has always been the love and sex go together. But now a days theres people just have casual sex because they know it feels good.
Sex should never be just something you need to do or have really. Relationships with sex can and will get better stronger. But what should I know my last relaionship was years and years ago.
 

Bliss

Sally Twit
If the sex is all you have then it's not a relationship. If you break up for that reason then you never had enough to make it last in the first place.
I guess for some people that's the be all and end all. I didn't start my relationship having sex. I was in love with him before then.
 

AnitaKnapp

It's not me, it's you.
V.I.P.
I guess a related question would be - if it changes the relationship for the worse, why? Is it basically "Good sex improves the relationship, bad sex hurts it"?
I have an example for you, and sorry if it gets a bit graphic.

Say that the couple has sex, or maybe the female has performed oral on the male. Say that the male enjoyed it so much, he is constantly making comments or asking her to do it all the time.

Now, sometimes that can be taken as a compliment...but after awhile if this female is orally pleasuring the male without getting any returns, so to speak...then it definitely hurts the relationship.

Maybe people don't have the time anymore, and all sexual encounters turn into "quickies" which could leave less time for one party not to be very satisfied.




Personally, I find that in my relationship, we argue a lot less when we're having sex regularly.
 
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ysabel

/ˈɪzəˌbɛl/ pink 5
I think it changes everything. Sex is the final thing you can do in a relationship. It's the point where everything culminates. When you have sex, you're getting super close and vulnerable and intimate with that person. From what I've seen of couples over the years, you can always tell when they've finally had sex. They seem to act differently around each other. If they're married or in a long term relationship, they get all cutesy and act all lovey dovey. Like super lovey dovey. However, I've seen times where they've only just started going out and you can tell it's made things awkward for them. So I say that sex definitely does change the relationship.
I don't think it's the final thing you can do in a relationship, although it's a major step. Also likewise, someone in a longterm relationship, even if they've had sex before, might not act cutesy lovely each time they do it.

Pretty simple question - in what ways does sex change a relationship? Does the effect vary a lot? What factors influence the effect it will have?
Sex does change a relationship's dynamic. Be it having sex with your partner, or a friend, or a stranger. The effects vary depending on your relationship with that person, your views about sex, your level of sexual desire, your sexual compatibility and if sex was satisfactory or not.

I guess a related question would be - if it changes the relationship for the worse, why? Is it basically "Good sex improves the relationship, bad sex hurts it"?
It's easy to blame sex in a relationship but I personally believe that relationships highly affected by lack of sex or bad sex have more issues beyond it, perhaps related to insecurity, lack of connection or communication, or even just unfulfilled expectations in a relationship (that some try to band-aid with sex).

Also, if someone isn't ready for it it can create awkward moments after that a couple don't automatically talk about (despite having passed through such an intimate act) because we grow up in an environment that doesn't allow really to be open about such things.

Dealing with consequences of sex is another thing that can make a relationship go bad.
 
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