How does sex change a relationship?

Discussion in 'Dating & Relationships' started by Wade8813, Jan 8, 2012.

  1. Wade8813

    Wade8813 Registered Member

    Pretty simple question - in what ways does sex change a relationship? Does the effect vary a lot? What factors influence the effect it will have?

  2. Smelnick

    Smelnick Creeping On You V.I.P.

    I think it changes everything. Sex is the final thing you can do in a relationship. It's the point where everything culminates. When you have sex, you're getting super close and vulnerable and intimate with that person. From what I've seen of couples over the years, you can always tell when they've finally had sex. They seem to act differently around each other. If they're married or in a long term relationship, they get all cutesy and act all lovey dovey. Like super lovey dovey. However, I've seen times where they've only just started going out and you can tell it's made things awkward for them. So I say that sex definitely does change the relationship.
  3. Bliss

    Bliss Sally Twit

    It's the ultimate act of love. It can be a beautiful thing if you want it to be. This is why I think sex should be between two people that love each other because the feelings involved and the connection you share is really hard to describe. I refuse to believe that two people having no strings attached sex can have as good a time together as two people who are deeply in love.
    I definitely think you become closer. And a cuddle after sex makes me feel so many things. Great things!
  4. EllyDicious

    EllyDicious made of AMBIGUITY V.I.P. Lifetime

    That is not always true. I know couples who've been in a relationship for more than 3 years or even live together and they don't act all lovey dovey.
    I think it depends on the couple. Some show PDA a lot and other don't.
  5. Merc

    Merc Certified Shitlord V.I.P. Lifetime

    There are certainly variables but assuming the two people like each other and the sex isn't a complete disaster, then all that really happens is they get closer to one another. It's an indescribable intimacy that you cannot comprehend without experiencing it.
  6. Iris

    Iris rainbow 11!

    I think it does. it can destroy or strengthen a relationship. it's like this (and try to not cum too hard, amy) that one episode of sex in the city where samantha waits to have sex with a guy, only for it to be horrible.
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  7. Millz

    Millz Lance Catamaran Staff Member V.I.P.

    It does change a relationship but hopefully always for the better! I agree that is it the apex of a relationship and there's nothing you can do with someone to become closer to them.

    I think that whenever you're ready it's okay to do it as long as you two care for each other.
  8. Konshentz

    Konshentz Konshentz

    Yeah, it definitely changes things in a relationship, whether it's a serious one or just friends messing around. Things rarely stay the same. How much it changes things, that really depends on the people & the situation. It's not always a change for the good. Ha.
  9. Wade8813

    Wade8813 Registered Member

    I guess a related question would be - if it changes the relationship for the worse, why? Is it basically "Good sex improves the relationship, bad sex hurts it"?
  10. EllyDicious

    EllyDicious made of AMBIGUITY V.I.P. Lifetime

    It depends on how much sex is important for the couple.
    If it's the most important thing then bad sex could ruin the relationship.

    But I think that if two people really love each other, bad sex could be improved and if it doesn't ...the couple can still survive.

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