Hello, my name is Shaun and im 18. About 2 months ago, My mum, my brother and I all found out that my dad had been having an affair for 6months (supposedly, but could have been longer) and my dad moved out with this other women. My mum and dad were married for 19years and never has my mum been unfaithful, whereas my add cheated previously, 10 years ago when i was 8 years old. She's finding it so hard to move on with life (im not expecting her to) and she's been to councelling sessions, but it doesn't seem to help. She has lots of good friends that are always there for her, but again, after their gone, it doesn't help her see that life can be good. Sometimes she flips over the smallest of things and takes it all out on me. Im doing my best to help and be the 2man" of the family... it isnt working. As for my relationship with my dad.... it isnt working either, i haven't fully trusted him from ten years ago and now that he has done it again, theres something inside me telling me that he doesnt deserve another chance. The events from 10years ago still haunt me, but my brother didn't know about it because i put him(was 6years old at the time) to bed, to keep him out of it. This means over the years he has been able to build up a better relationship and have more things in common with my dad, while I have never 100% trusted my dad. Now, my brother see's my dad and has alot in common... but i dont. My dad has taken me out for coffee's, have a pint etc.... but this isn't what i want, i don't want everything to seem like nothing has happened, and i have told my dad this, and also have told him how i feel about everything. He says he doesn't know what to do with me, but neither do I, i dont know what i want to do with my dad. There is one thing i know: I do not want anything to do with his new family, or meet them. They have split up the one thing that means the world to me. Theres allot more to say... but im sure your bored of it now, im sorry for having to share all my worries and anger. To sum it up. I cant keep my mum or dad happy, and all im trying to do is support everyone. I cant Cope. thanks for reading, I hope you can help me slightly, i know theres not a quick fix.