I was engaged to a man I still love very much. Three days before my 21st birthday, he called me to tell me that he was interested in another girl, and broke it off with me. He claimed he didn't think that we'd be happy together in the long run. (knowing him as well as I do, I know he means that he's afraid I'll get bored of him.) He called me 4 days later, the night before my birthday, to wish me happy birthday when it turned midnight. He told me numerous times that he wanted me around, if only as a friend. That he didn't love this girl, he was infatuated, and that he was curious. He was "just curious, that's all" and kept insisting that I should keep up hope for us having a relationship in the future. (I know it's a red flag. ignore it. not the point) He kept struggling between trying to make me stay and telling me to live my life. In the way he talked to me, I could tell he still loves me. Also, he didn't call me by my name, instead it was hun, babe, baby. I pointed it out and he said it was because it's what he wanted to call me. Now, I know this seems desperate, but I'm not. I'm a very strong woman and I can live without him. I can move on, and I can continue. Thing is, I love him, and there's so much potential there...we never fought. We communicated so well...it was a long distance relationship and those are hard. And the way he broke it off and still talks to me only furthers my thinkings that he doesn't want to lose me and that he still wants me. I want to know what I can do to get him back. Now I don't mean begging and pleading or any of that crap. I mean things I can do to mess with his head a bit and make HIM come to ME. I'm already barely talking to him, which is driving him nuts, cause I'm the closest "friend" he's got and we used to talk 12+ hours a day. Also, I had two books he wanted. I mailed them to him. I made sure they smelled like my perfume (the last time he smelled it we were at a romantic candle lit dinner). I also ripped out a page from a baby name book I had which had a list of the names he and I had come up with for our children. I placed it in the book as if it was a bookmark. (he desperately wants a family. he's 34 and afraid of not having one.) We corresponded barely about the books, and I let him know when I mailed them. I've heard nothing since they arrived at his house (delivery confirmation). He and I haven't been apart long, and I was wondering what I can to do basically psychologically get to him. What would make him want to come back to me. Anything that would make him think of me, and make him regret letting me go (because I know, and I know he knows, that there is no replacement for what we had and who I am). I want to know what would make him question what I'm doing, what I'm thinking, what I'm up to. I want him to wonder what we might have been, and where we might be now if he hadn't broken it off. I want him to wonder if he can get me back. And I need guys to tell me what would get to them, or girls if you had something that worked in the past it would rock. I don't want to come off as desperate and I don't want him to know that I'm trying to get him back. Like, I don't want it blatantly obvious. *sighs* I just want help...you find that one person who fits you like a glove...it's too hard to let them go. I don't want to let go of the one man who still may be mine. Advice? Please? Thank you.