My mother just called and told me that she hopes that I will come for christmas but that she doesn't want my partner to come. She apologized and stressed that she liked my partner and that he had done nothing to offend her but she wanted her mother to come for christmas and she knew she wouldn't if I brought my partner along. I told her that I understood that my grandmother was old school and I can't hold that against her. My mother then said that during our recent visit to her house for the weekend where she met my partner for the first time, she liked him very much.... BUT. Seeing us together made her realize that she was very much like her mother and that she was VERY uncomfortable the entire weekend. I am shocked. I had no idea. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to tell my partner. I don't know if I should just stay home and make a stand or say "it's ok" and go alone and miss him terribly the entire time I'm gone. I really need some help with this one. I don't know what to do. I feel like either way I am going to hurt someone I love. help?