OK, i would just want to know everyone opinion on this you see i was thinking about this after i saw some movie ( sadly can't remember what it was about or called). In the movie somebody had to do a totally selfless act. Now if somebody tells you to do a totally selfless act and you do it, the act is not selfless at all as you wanted to commit a selfless act so the act you committed was in the end for your own personal gain. If someone where to commit there whole life to helping hungry round bellied babys in africa it would not be selfless as they chose to commit there life to charity. In other words charity makes that individual feel good about themselves and so they did it for themselves. another example; You HATE going to your grandmother/mother/mother in law but still you go because you don't want to be rude or make your grandmother/mother/mother in law feel bad. So in the end your going because going there makes you feel good about yourself because the person you were going to, feels good about themselves. Seriously if anybody can think of a totally selfless act that i can't explain is not a selfless act ( you still with me ) please tell me. so when it all comes down to it human beiings always put themselves first. Cheers!