Crazy things people do for 'love'

Discussion in 'Dating & Relationships' started by RJ-Cool, Jun 28, 2010.

  1. RJ-Cool

    RJ-Cool "Expect the unexpected"

    FOR some people, it seems as if reason goes out the window the minute they think they are in love. Reasons, circumstances or situations may vary but the actions displayed sometimes reflect a somewhat distorted perception/view of love. People may be in love or think they're in love but either way, their feelings sometimes trigger a crazy reaction.

    For men and women alike, two prime examples are:
    1. Getting married in haste OR
    2. Pretending like crazy to garner/obtain affection.

    Can you relate to doing crazy things for the sake of 'love'?
    Do you know of someone who has had any such experience?
    What are some other crazy things that you know/hear about that people do for the sake of 'love'?

    (Feel free to answer any or all of the afore mentioned questions)

  2. Grootseun

    Grootseun Registered Member

    Why do people stay in abuse relationships? Is it because of love, or because the person might be manipulative?

    If that is for love, that's probably the craziest thing people do for love
  3. RJ-Cool

    RJ-Cool "Expect the unexpected"

    The issue of people staying an in abuse relationship can be somewhat complex to understand. Partners in abusive relationships have varying reasons for remaining in them; the reasons could be financial, religious, cultural, fear... etc. (just to name a few) but some people actually stay because of what they perceive as 'love'..........

    A woman usually wants her relationship to work and is willing to hang in there waiting and hoping things will improve. She may believe the promises and explanations her partner offers and may feel she can't simply give up on the relationship because of a "few problems."
    A man In spite of the abuse, may seek to find enough good in the relationship to "make up" for the abuse.
  4. storm_ina_C_cup

    storm_ina_C_cup Registered Member

    I think the craziest thing I did for love was move to Europe for him...(this was after we got engaged in the US).

    I don't know many stories to be honest but there is one that stands out that seemed pretty damn crazy to me; I knew this girl in College / Uni who pretended to be pregnant to hold on to her boyfriend because she loved him.
    ...To me, that's not love, that's manipulation.
  5. Rebeccaaa

    Rebeccaaa yellow 4!

    I've done some pretty dumb things for people I've liked in the past, but nothing comes close to my friend who stays with her aggressive/insane boyfriend because she thinks there is still love there, even if it's now buried beneath all his threats and lies. To me it's not love, but she won't leave him. :dunno:
  6. FatesDreamer

    FatesDreamer Registered Member

    HAHAHA! Wonderful, a post that I can definitely get with lol.

    :shocked: STORY TIME! :shocked:

    It was a dark scary night, I a younger man child, talked with a girl online for hours and hours. Together we shared a great deal of things that made us seem so compatible and in time we developed a connection.

    >>>Fast Forward>>>

    Loved developed, at least it felt that way for me at the time. The worse part of it all was that I had no idea what the girl looked like :shake: only her voice and yet I felt it was love FO SHO YO :nod:(XD sorry for ghetto lingo). She lived in Alberta,Canada and I in Florida and I wanted to meet her badly. So I planned to take a bus to see her there. I was 19 at the time and I told my mom about what I wanted to do. I can't say I was entirely surprised that she wasn't ok with it, but to tell me that I didn't have a choice but to do what she said was something I wouldn't accept! We were fighting for awhile anyways but this situation with the girl really heated things up, she and my brother both turned their backs on me, in a sense disowning me from the family because I wanted to meet a girl I never met before far far away. Their reasons understandable, their actions greatly exaggerated.

    In the end I got kicked out of the house(for different reasons but stemmed from the same source) and my mother even hid my bus tickets till the date I was suppose to go. Luckly for me I was still able to go with no need to pay extra. I then spent 3 days on a bus heading to OOOOOH CANADA lol. To skip past a lot more drama it didn't work out, I was so afraid she wasn't really in it as I was, her ex picking up the phone in her house after he was suppose to leave didn't help...even if he was there for the kids lol. We tried being friends after but I felt she didn't really value me as she claims she did. There's a lot more details on this but for the sake of the reader I skipped stuff lol.

    That's my crazy attempt at finding love, though much later on I realized it wasn't love, just me eager to find and keep it. Now I don't look for love anymore nor do I care to find it. If it comes which I doubt it will, I'll see what happens, till then I care not for love :D
  7. RJ-Cool

    RJ-Cool "Expect the unexpected"

    Yo FatesDreamer! Thanks for sharing your story. That was some crazy s**t!
    Man,That was some experience!
    Anyway, I'll encourage you not to let that experience hinder you from pursuing true love. Have an open finds us when we least expect it! Sometimes it begins with a simple friendship then as time progress it evolves into love. Time will make things more apparent.........just have a little faith.
  8. FatesDreamer

    FatesDreamer Registered Member

    lol thanks it definitely was crazy and at the same time rather enjoyable...oddly enough XD. Though I should say I haven't completely given up on the prospect of finding love, just I'm not gonna eagerly pursuing it like I once did. I am, as you stated, just waiting for the the least expected moment instead of forcing the issue lol. For the most part though I try not to concern myself over it because I know how bad the desire for love can get especially when you don't think it through like with my story.

    So if love is the cards for me, the next time I do it, I do it patiently, less aggressive and most of all smart lol.
  9. RJ-Cool

    RJ-Cool "Expect the unexpected"

    Good for you! Excellent decision! When it's your turn for love, nothing or no one will be able to stop it! It will'll see!

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