I know I can't be the only one that sees this, but one of the biggest problems in SD is the speech pattern. People tend to talk in absolutes which is rarely a good idea. I'll give an example: With Absolutes: "Boys are messy, smelly, and stupid." This statement is fallacious because it seems to suggest that all "boys" are smelly, stupid, and messy. Speaking this way is only going to confuse and anger people since it comes off as a generalization. Without Absolutes "Some boys are messy, smelly, and stupid." Chances are, this is how you really meant it. Everyone knows that not all boys are the three mentioned adjectives (although we all tend to fit in at least one) so why sound like it? Conversations and debates go much smoother if you add simple language to your statements and prevents people from seeing you as a sweeping, presumptuous cock rag. Irish people drink way too much can become: A lot of Irish people drink way too much or: Irish people tend to drink way too much. By adding in simple words and phrases, you clarify that you're not applying labels and statements to an entire group. Say the above conversation takes place where someone says, "Irish people drink too much." Now, the other person wants to know how they know this. Then, the other person can say, "Only some of them." So why not just skip a possibly lengthy detour and just say, "Some Irish people drink too much" and then continue on? Maybe I'm a bit off in my explanations, but I've seen a lot of people on this board do it. Such paraphrased examples include: Children are dumb Conservatives are Christians etc. Bottom line is that those sorts of things ruin a conversation and piss people off because they're nothing more than sweeping generalizations even though they're not what you intended.