I just received a e-mail from a not so pleasant person.......I didn't add the e-mail and response to my listing, but my husband thinks I should so that everyone can understand what we are doing....but I was not so pleasant in my response.... so I will paste the e-mail and my response here and maybe you all could give me some feedback on what I should do....and if you feel the same as this person did..please don't hold back...let me know... ~Trina~ Why are you claiming that you are trying to raise money for the adoption of a foster child? The federal government PAYS each state a significant amount of money and each state PAYS ALL adoption espenses from that fund and then continues to provide Medicaid and PAY an adoption subsidy for that child until that former foster child turns 18. I know, I have adopted 5 from foster care. I hate it when people (like yourself) prey upon the sympathies of people in the name of their foster kids! my response: WOW.......Well hmmmm I am bewildered I guess...I wish you would have asked me questions instead of the downright accusations and the nice label you gave me....Ma'am/Sir if you know so much about foster care and the foster to adopt program then you should know that you must pay all attorney fee's up front and then the state will only reimburse up to $1000.00 (after the adoption is final)....and you are responsible for the rest....in my case the bio's rights have been terminated and we just started the process of fighting a family member of the bio mom's husband (no blood to my child) for custody that just came out of the blue......Do you know what that Intel's??? This is a fight that may go on for years....and at my expense....Although, yes the State Attorney does most the fighting, but I also have to have my attorney for mine and my son's best interest. And Yes, your foster (adopted children) do receive Medicaid if ONLY you do not have personal insurance...which we do...and not in all cases do you get subsidy until the child is 18..this is a untrue statement...the State has cut cost everywhere the last few years...BUGET CRUNCH...and you must prove your child is mentally or physically disabled before getting anything from the state after a adoption is final, although you can fabricate to get this funding....my child does not qualify for this that I know of as he is a healthy boy..... I am in the leadership foster care program and also a Bio parent Mentor...Please do not try to tell me the laws and the rules and how much you receive from the state...to me that can be fabrication in itself...Not every adoption works that way...did you adopt siblings??? and how long ago was this??? and mainly were these children Bio Parents rights terminated without appeals? Also, I am amazed your are receiving money for all 5 of your adopted children. That must be nice to get child support for your kids. And as for preying on people...bite your tongue...I am merely telling my story and what they bid on is in fact what they get and so far everyone that have won one of my mystery auctions has been very happy.....I have not deceived anyone and to be frank...people like you amaze me and it is people like you that make it harder for the foster program if you are still receiving money from the state to raise YOUR 5 CHILDREN!!! That could also be considered preying..... GRRRRRRR I hate having to defend myself especially to someone that should know how hard this is......you must of had it so easy in your adoptions....nothing must of never went wrong for you...well Ma'am/Sir this is not easy and being a foster mom in general is not easy....I resent the fact that YOU (of all people) try to make it sound so pretty.....or to make me sound like I am preying.......Maybe you never had a story to tell, but I do and I am proud to be this little boys mom and I will sell everything I have to do it.....I LOVE HIM, and when this is all over if it ever is...He will be my son to raise, just as if I had him myself...and he will not be the states responsibility. I am sad I am lashing out...I would never have expected another foster parent to be so cruel to me for what I am doing. Maybe someone that didn't understand the facts, but not another foster parent. I have to wipe my feet at the door of this e-mail as if I hold on to what you said in anger I will only be hurting myself...as you were just trying to be hurtful. I wish I could thank you for your concerns, but I just can't.