Have any of you guys ever been in anger management before?
I've been in anger management three times. Twice during elementary because I was constantly losing my temper when the other kids were tormenting me, and I'd lash out. Being a strong farm kid, I usually did damage, and so I was in anger management twice.
Then I went in anger management again in highschool. This time it wasn't so much because of any incidence. It was more to do with my step dad trying to use my temper as a reason for my two little brothers not to stay in the same house. So I took anger management as a show that I was dealing with it. In that last session, I'd realized that my anger problems had shifted from expressing it in the wrong way and explosively, to not expressing it enough, and holding it in too much.
The counsellour that ran the class was very good. He helped us to identify when were getting angry and what was getting us angry. He taught us some great methods for expressing our anger in a positive way.
I think the most important thing he taught the class though was not to feel bad about getting angry. Anger isn't bad, it's what you do when you're angry that can be bad.
For myself, I tend to lose my temper when either I'm frustrated about someone not taking my point of view into consideration, or if I'm feeling guilty about something I know I did wrong and am being called out on it. Basically, anytime my self esteem is threatened, and I start feeling inadequate.
So what is your opinions on anger management? What do you find to be your best method of dealing with anger. What is the thing that usually makes you angry enough to lose your control, and what steps do you take get your cool back?
I've been in anger management three times. Twice during elementary because I was constantly losing my temper when the other kids were tormenting me, and I'd lash out. Being a strong farm kid, I usually did damage, and so I was in anger management twice.
Then I went in anger management again in highschool. This time it wasn't so much because of any incidence. It was more to do with my step dad trying to use my temper as a reason for my two little brothers not to stay in the same house. So I took anger management as a show that I was dealing with it. In that last session, I'd realized that my anger problems had shifted from expressing it in the wrong way and explosively, to not expressing it enough, and holding it in too much.
The counsellour that ran the class was very good. He helped us to identify when were getting angry and what was getting us angry. He taught us some great methods for expressing our anger in a positive way.
I think the most important thing he taught the class though was not to feel bad about getting angry. Anger isn't bad, it's what you do when you're angry that can be bad.
For myself, I tend to lose my temper when either I'm frustrated about someone not taking my point of view into consideration, or if I'm feeling guilty about something I know I did wrong and am being called out on it. Basically, anytime my self esteem is threatened, and I start feeling inadequate.
So what is your opinions on anger management? What do you find to be your best method of dealing with anger. What is the thing that usually makes you angry enough to lose your control, and what steps do you take get your cool back?